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“Before I began working with Natalie I was feeling stuck in an emotional spiral. I would start out angry, then lose my temper and react poorly, then get completely lost in shame, only to begin the cycle again. I felt so much shame. I felt on the deepest level that I was a terrible mother because of how I reacted to my feelings of anger toward my children.

In working with Natalie I found the accountability to spend daily time with Jesus along with the coaching I needed to retrain my thoughts so I could be the mom (and person!) I really wanted to be.

While working with Natalie I learned I am outside of other people’s thoughts and opinions of me. I can still love someone and be detached from their emotional spirals, processing my interactions with them in a healthy way so that I don’t go down my own emotional spiral because of their actions toward me. I learned and witnessed how God changes the literal pathways in my brain, replacing my own critical thoughts of myself and others with his healing truth. This is the catalyst for true change.

If you’re seeking a toolkit for becoming the mother you want to be, one that also comes with the accountability you need to help guide you, this is it. 

I was on the fence for about a year before feeling so desperate for change that I finally took the plunge and met with Natalie for the first time. Honestly, I feared I was unfixable.

After going through this program with Natalie’s guidance and God’s faithfulness to heal broken things, I now believe in the deepest part of my soul that whether in times of abundance or in times of failure, I can do all things through him who strengthens me. 

Your broken parts are fixable too–you need only a willingness to learn how it’s possible.

THANK YOU SO MUCH NATALIE! Keep being the vessel of healing and change God has made you to be!”

-Meagan J.

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“Before my wife, Meagan, began coaching with Natalie, I felt like it was my responsibility to make sure I was there to be a buffer between Meagan and her triggers. 

I felt “on alert” most of the time. When she was triggered I felt I had to be there for her to protect her and also our kids. For a period of time, I’m sad to say that it was really hard for me to be around her.

As Meagan began to go through the program and work with Natalie, I noticed my wife begin to understand herself more – what her triggers are, and what past wounds may be causes for her triggers. She was able to draw lines between where she was wrong and where she was wronged. Now she’s able to take time to process before she responds.

I’m really proud of Meagan for going through this program, and I’m especially proud of her for how fiercely she’s trying to end certain generational sins from her past. Her humility to apologize to our kids every time she’s triggered is a really big deal. 

I think Natalie’s program was a major influence in helping Meagan grow her confidence and self-assurance. She’s able to speak with a gentleness about tense family situations because she has a much better understanding of all of the dynamics. The tools she learned in the program she shared with our kids. In the past, those big feelings often brought other big feelings from someone else into the situation. Now instead of escalating together, we do a better job of calming down together.

There was a period of time in our marriage where I wondered what happened to the Meagan I proposed to and married. About 3-4 weeks into the program I noticed a sort of “untying of knots” in both me and Meagan. We talked about these struggles differently. We were more patient with one another, and there was less tension in the home. 

I’m glad that Meagan has gotten the help and tools she needs because I certainly couldn’t have done that for her. I’m really happy to say that, even though our lives are the busiest and craziest they’ve ever been, we’re facing it head-on together. 

We’re both excited to date each other and our intimacy on all levels is coming back, which is very refreshing.

Any husband out there is on the fence about his wife going through a program with a “life coach,” which I feel is sort of a nebulous term that could mean a lot of things, I’d say that I appreciate his concern. But I’d tell him that this life coach (Natalie) has put together an excellent program that will benefit his wife and their relationship as well as his family. Titles or terminology should not be the reason to hold your wife back from doing this.

If there are any husbands out there (and I imagine there are many) who are concerned about the cost of the program: Investing in your wife, your marriage, and your family is not the worst thing that could happen. The financial part of this should not be the thing that holds you back. Find a way to make it happen. Get a scholarship from your church, sell some stuff, hold off on a vacation for a bit. 

In my opinion, finances are not a good enough reason to say no. You likely can’t afford NOT to go through this program.

Support your wife through this!

Thanks, Natalie for being a friend and an encourager for Meagan through this!”

-Adam J.

This was just a snippet of what Meagan and Adam had to say please CLICK HERE to read both of their FULL testimonials.

“My biggest challenge was my passive-aggressive behavior toward my children and husband. I was always a victim and always shut down emotionally. I knew it wasn’t healthy, but my mom was that way, and I took on the behavior. I hated when my mom acted that way when I was young, so I knew that I needed to change.

Everything changed after working with Natalie. My relationships improved with my family and my girls seemed to trust me more. There was a joy and evenness to our home that wasn’t there before.

I worked through things that I didn’t know I needed to work through! Some issues with my mom and a toxic friendship that has ended a few years ago. I was carrying a lot of pain and anger that needed to be dealt with. It was keeping me from fully parenting my girls with love and peace and freedom. Things are better in every way. I’ve let go of a lot and learned a lot. Also, it’s important to know that we all have emotions that need to be validated. I can’t expect my girls to never feel anger or frustration. We have all learned to process things in a more healthy, Godly way.

I heard Natalie speak on a podcast and there is no question that the Lord had me there at that moment. Working with Natalie has been life-changing and a blessing to my children and husband.”

“Natalie is amazing! It’s really great to have a life coach who is also a Christian because, in my experience, personal growth is not going to be long-lasting unless Christ is in the center of the change.

Natalie has a special way of allowing me to process what I’m learning in my own time while also sharing personal accounts of her own growth and development so I feel heard, understood, and validated. Natalie offers support & encouragement and I have never felt judged or shamed. When you talk to Natalie you feel like you’re talking to an old friend!

I would say that life coaching is the key to changing your thoughts. I believe the main trigger that leads to burnout & anger is the thoughts one believes about their circumstances.

The reason this program is life-changing is because it gives you easy to follow steps on changing what you’re telling yourself and what you believe about your life. Each week builds on itself so it’s not overwhelming. Natalie is supporting you each step along the way!”

“When I found Natalie my biggest challenge was seeing MY reactions as negative. Allowing myself to run with the anger until it was so out of control my children were scared of me and I was consumed with guilt and shame. I felt shameful. Guilty. I never handled ANY negative encounter with calmness and thought. I just jumped into conflict with the attitude of “I’m the mom and you will listen, dang it”. Then the after-effect set in and the guilt.

While working with Natalie I began to experience calmness. Breathing. There’s always time to take a deep breath, pray, and formulate a HEALTHY response. I’ve realized that identifying and acknowledging the emotions both mine and the kids’ is the key to dealing with the situation. Learning to pause and breath was really key for me. That acknowledging the anger as a valid emotion is not only ok but IMPORTANT to growth and healing.

If you are on the fence about working with Natalie – CALL.HER! You will not regret it. If you hear just one moment that resonates with you, chances are her whole story will sound familiar.

I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God brought this amazing resource into my life at the exact time I needed it most. My time with her was four months of fixing/challenging/growing/ healing.

WORTH EVERY PENNY!”

“When I found Natalie I was really struggling with burn out and didn’t know what to do when faced with triggers from my kiddos. I stuffed my anger down, not knowing what to do with it, and then would have an eruption of yelling that I felt shame over. I wasn’t confident in much of what I was doing as a mama and felt like I wasn’t modeling Christ to them through my actions when I was angry.

I felt like I was a machine, running on fumes to care for others and resenting them for it. I was angry at my husband for working so much and leaving me to solo parent so often. I was angry with my kids for doing things that are normal for kids to do. I had so much shame for these feelings and it snowballed until I found Natalie.

I have a new confidence in my role as a mom and actually enjoy time with my kiddos more than I used to. I let them be kids and have realistic expectations of them. I’m communicating better with my husband and have made a lot of progress in being more supportive of his career. I have a clearer vision of who I am and I feel freedom from the guilt and shame that I was carrying.

Natalie helped me to build awareness around my triggers and taught me how to cope with my emotions of stress, anxiety, worry, and anger. Now, I am starting to model to my kids how to handle these normal emotions in a healthy way. Natalie helped me to see how some of my current challenges/patterns were connected to how I grew up and also helped me process through the healing that needed to happen to have a healthy perspective. Another breakthrough was how valuable the positive mindset work was. It has really changed the way that I think and how I approach my days.

If you are trying to decide if the investment is worth it, definitely do it! It is an investment of time and money that will pay off right away and for the years to come. Working on making these changes will impact not only your immediate family but generations to come as well.“

“When I found Natalie I felt absolutely stuck. I had succumbed to the belief that this was just how motherhood is: joyless, difficult, exhausting, and full of frustration and anger. I was explosive with my anger, slamming doors, spanking out of anger, throwing things, and yelling at my kids and my husband.

I felt alone and hopeless and worried that it couldn’t be different. It also felt like a deeply shameful thing to be struggling with as a woman who trusts her whole life to Jesus Christ. That made me feel all the more alone and stuck.

Natalie helped me to realize that my kids weren’t the problem, my season and life stage and external circumstance weren’t the problem. The foundational thing that needed to be addressed was my mindset. Natalie helped me name and bring awareness to limiting beliefs, shame and guilt I carried, fears of not being good enough, and how often I put my identity in external things like my kids’ behavior. It’s not that life isn’t frustrating now. It’s that I have the tools and awareness to check in with myself, to acknowledge that I am feeling triggered and to know WHY those things triggered me. Then I have the power within myself to live out of the flesh (fear, hurts, lies, limiting beliefs) or the spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, self-control). Before Natalie I would TRY to live out of the spirit without addressing how I was actually feeling. I would suppress and suppress until I exploded and then feel shame and guilt about that. Natalie has provided me with the tools I need to stop in the moment and bring awareness to how I’m feeling and move forward.

I feel awake and present in my life. I am no longer allowing the external circumstances—whether joyful or frustrating—to dictate my identity. My identity is rooted and established in Christ, even when I’m angry. And I can go to him without shame, without blame, and allow him to meet me where I’m at. The awareness I have gained through coaching with Natalie is remarkable. I felt asleep to my life, going through the motions and then exploding seemingly out of nowhere. After doing many trigger trackers, and talking through my limiting beliefs, I finally started to see the patterns of anger. It has trickled over into other things though. Now I’m not just aware of my patterns of anger, but I am also quick to tune in when I’m feeling guilty, hurt, afraid, embarrassed, discontent, lonely, bored and the list goes on and on. I feel like I finally have the power to name what I’m feeling and then move through it in a healthy normal way.

I remember trying to figure out if I should work with Natalie. For me, I kept hearing a small voice that said, “You’re not really that bad. You don’t really need this” but as I pressed into that thought more and more I realized that those were lies from the enemy keeping me from living an abundant life just on the other side of that resistance. Listen to me. Your kids aren’t the only ones who will benefit from you saying yes to coaching with Natalie, your spouse will, your friendships, your relationships with family members will all be drastically changed for the better because of this yes. I know those external people in my life were what motivated me to dive in with Natalie, but I didn’t realize how much I deserved to do this kind of work for myself. As a mom, wife, woman, it can feel like we constantly do things for other people. This is one thing I guarantee you will benefit from just as much as the people you love.”

“When I came to Natalie I was struggling with losing my temper and having destructive anger often. I felt terrible. Covered in guilt and shame only led to me repeat the cycle. Feeling bad about myself and having negative self-talk made me treat my family poorly.

While working with Natalie I gained tools to change my negative self-talk. I learned how important awareness is and how to use it to change my negative talk to positive. Also – Recovery! Making things right and recovered with my children. Showing them that I need to apologize and ask for forgiveness too.

You don’t have to feel helpless with your anger. This isn’t who you are. You can change and will with this program. You gain tools and confidence which changes your family and not just you.”

“When I found Natalie my biggest challenge was getting order in my house without resorting to yelling and my kids knowing mom is mad now. Also toxic friendships and why the same pattern kept happening.

I felt really overwhelmed, sad – maybe depressed, and definitely anxious. I felt like I was managing all the time at a very low level of life. (i. e. chicken nuggets and pizza for dinner – “phew the kids ate!”) But I would continue to be anxious because another day was coming just like the last that I would have to survive instead of live.

While working with Natalie I began growing into the person I know I am… I started to find my strength & require respect to be in a relationship with me. I’ve changed a lot of the ways that I speak to my family. I have made distance with toxic friends.

Natalie mentioned that many people around me seemed like they had destructive anger. Seeing some of the blame lifted off of me for the behavior that has arisen in so many relationships was freeing. There was no way for me to know that this was true. I found it very validating that I wasn’t the only one with the problem in my relationships. I found I proceeded forward in a more confident manner after this. I trusted Natalie’s opinion as she seems quite grounded in Christ which is what I was looking for in a coach.

If you truly want a change you should work with Natalie. She is kind, sincere, smart and observes what you tell her and comes back with some great insight that can really change the trajectory of your life.”

“My biggest challenge was destructive anger towards my oldest son, who is almost 8 years old. Because of this severely strained relationship, my anger and burnout flowed into most other relationships in my life, including the most important ones with my husband and 2 other children, ages 6 and 3.5. There was no joy in my motherhood – not only did my mind/heart/soul feel so heavy, my home reflected that too. There was little laughter or light-heartedness. I wished to be present in my marriage and in my motherhood, not just as if I was going through the motions of life day in and day out.

These challenges made me feel like a horrible mom. My life was a constant feeling of defeat, overwhelm, anger, sadness, disgust, tiredness – nearly every negative emotion one could feel. It was impacting my life is such a negative way. I was in a continuous downward spiral and could barely keep my head above water. Often, there were days I just wanted to be done, throw in the towel, and not be a wife and a mom anymore. I felt they would be better off without me and this heaviness I was bringing to the family.

I’ve had soo many positive results and breakthroughs in working with Natalie!!

I have a stronger relationship with God through prayer and communicating with Him throughout my day. I am a better wife and mom now. My family is communicating and connecting more than ever before. There is more joy and laughter in my home and more importantly, in my heart. I recover from my destructive anger more quickly now, and most times can stop it before it even becomes destructive and simply respond rather than react. I communicate my feelings with my husband and kids. I also take time to process and really lean into those negative emotions in order to work through them completely. Before I was just pushing through the negative emotions and continuing my tasks at hand, which only lead to increased destructive behavior and burnout.

Natalie helped me uncover a deep-rooted belief I had, that children are a burden. My negative thoughts, words, and actions were continually supporting this belief. She helped me overcome those. Natalie also helped me become more aware that I can not do more to be more. I am already more by being His. I cannot work myself into acceptance with God or others. I do not need anyone’s approval to be healthy. I don’t need anyone’s approval at all; I only need to have approval from God and myself. I do not need approval from people who do not know how to give it.

These things were huge for me! Soo many results/breakthroughs have come with working with Natalie – from small pivots I’ve made in my daily life with my family, to deep-rooted beliefs that have been revealed and am working to overcome.

If you are on the fence – Do it! This program has done so much for my personal development and the relationships with my husband and children! Natalie is an absolutely amazing coach. She is so dedicated to her work and her clients. She is so beautifully present while coaching you. She encourages you and speaks life back into you. She helps you uncover why you have certain destructive beliefs, how to process negative emotions, and then how to work through them and turn them into positive, productive beliefs to move forward. She is such a light in my life that has reaffirmed that God loves me for me, that I am enough, that I am worthy, and that I am an amazing wife and mom.”

“Natalie, I just wanted to thank you so much. Your program and help over the last year+ have been invaluable.

I was thinking back on how I was literally at rock bottom with my feelings toward motherhood and that I could never change and how different that is now. Through this pandemic and our normal routines being thrown out the window, I’ve used so many of the tools I’ve learned from you.

I’m so grateful for you!! You have equipped me so well.”

“When I found Natalie my biggest challenge was yelling at my children and the guilt I would feel afterwards.

I felt Sad. Frustrated. Scared that I was ruining my children and if I didn’t get help and change my husband might leave me.

While working with Natalie I was made aware of new truths and reminded of some I had forgotten about who I am. I was given new tools to chose from through-out the day when I struggle.

Specific results I have gotten from working with Natalie are I don’t yell or feel as guilty as often. I am connecting better with my children and husband. I have more joy throughout my days and a positive outlook that far outweighs the negative one I used to have.

If you want to learn how to chose better and are ready to put in the effort, Natalie is a great support to walk through this season of learning with you. Natalie was fun, positive, has plenty of resources, kept me accountable and most importantly, she always pointed me back to God.”

“Before I found Natalie, I felt like I was yelling all the time and losing my temper at the smallest things. I was not treating my children the way I wanted to, and I was not enjoying being a mom.

I felt so guilty and ashamed. I had waited so long to become a mom, and our kids deserved so much better than I was giving them. I worried that I was ruining our relationships. My husband was helping and supporting me as best he could, but one day he said, you need to get help.

When I found Natalie, I was so relieved to find out I wasn’t the only mom who struggled with anger and she can help me! I learned that I didn’t have the knowledge or the skills to deal with my emotions. Natalie taught me that all emotions are beneficial and she taught me how to process them. I realized I had a lot of negative self talk and she helped me reframe my thoughts about my kids and being a mom. One of the best things, though, is that Natalie encouraged me and kept me accountable to spend time with God every day. God changed my heart of stone to a heart of flesh through this program.

Since working with Natalie, I am a much freer person. Natalie helped me through a number of things from my past. I was holding on to a lot of guilt that is now gone. I also feel freer because I have the tools to process my feelings and perfection is not the goal. I will mess up with my kids, but Natalie taught me how to recover with them, which is making our relationships stronger.

If you are on the fence about working with Natalie, I say go for it! God did so much more in my life through working with Natalie than I ever could have imagined. I was nervous and awkward at first, but Natalie is so open and encouraging. Natalie’s program is wonderful, but I also see it now as a vessel God can use to help moms with even more than what’s on the surface.”

“Before I found Natalie I was exhausted and I felt tired all the time. I was burnt out and I wasn’t happy. This lead me to bigger problems like screaming and excessive spanking.

I felt like half a person. I woke up every day wondering if I would ever feel “normal” again. I hated the mom I had become but I felt like I was on a one way down hill spiral that was out of control. I didn’t know which way was up or how to get there. I felt hopeless and hopeful at the same time. And I knew the destination that I wanted, the kind of mother I wanted to be was not completely out of reach but I was going to need help to get there. These feeling and actions were impacting me life in just about every area. They impacted my marriage and my sex life. They impacted my self worth. They impacted my parenting, my lack of desire to do anything outside of what had to be done on a day to day basis. They impacted my hobbies, my social life, my family life, and my level of physical activity.

While working with Natalie, I developed a relationship with God. I started to see myself though His eyes. I learned more about the atonement and started understanding more about true forgiveness. I learned about my past and my family history. I gained the tools I needed to learn to have more patience and self restraint with my children. I grew, a lot. I still have a lot of growing to do but I feel so much more confident now that I can reach my destination than I ever had before. I changed after working with Natalie.

My biggest breakthrough was learning about my parents and who they really are and how that has impacted my life. I learned that I was lacking boundaries and allowing them to influence my life too much. I learned that I was mad at my mom, that I needed to forgive her for things that I didn’t even realize where bothering me.

If you are undecided about working with Natalie, I would say you might regret not working her but it is very unlikely you will regret working with her. Natalie taught me so much more than how to defeat burnout and tools to help with destructive anger. Natalie taught me about myself, who I really am and what I am really worth. She validated me, gave me constructive criticism, and showed me the way to have joy back in my life. Before working with Natalie I had forgotten why I had become a mother. I was stuck in the daily grind and unable to see past my own pain. Since working with her I truly enjoy the mundane day to day activities. My days don’t drag on from one to the next. I feel joy, I see it in my kids and in our life. I wake up happy to start my day and to spend my time with my children and that is a gift I didn’t know I could be given. If you’re looking for joy in your journey, you won’t regret starting that journey here.”

“Before working with Natalie, I got easily angered with all members of my family. I had trouble controlling my anger and it came out in negative ways.

Most days I felt frustrated or annoyed with everyone. I was a grumpy wife and mom. I didn’t know a different way or really that things could be different. And really that was my example from my parents that being annoyed or irritated or yelling at kids was acceptable and normal. At the time, I’m not sure I truly understood how it was fully impacting my life. I knew my husband thought my anger was a problem but it took me a long while before I accepted that my anger was a problem, so unfortunately my relationship with my husband was at times rocky and not great and the relationships with my kids also suffered.

After I started coaching I learned some tools that have been so helpful to me. It’s been so helpful to be able to process negative emotions with Natalie and it’s been helpful to talk through different situations and triggers for me. I’m so much more aware of my emotions and what I’m feeling. I’m also so much more aware of when I start to feel overwhelmed and can usually tell when I’m about to lose my patience and go down a negative path with anger. I know now that if I do lose it and make mistakes that I can recover with my kids or husband and repair that broken relationship.

I learned so much during this coaching program. I think the most foundational thing I learned is that I do experience all the emotions (joy, fear, sadness, disgust, and anger) and now I can recognize them in my day to day life. Before I started coaching I could really only identify and recognize joy and anger. Also, learning that experiencing all the emotions is OK and that negative emotions are speed bumps and indicators that I need to take a look and assess how I’m doing and why I feel this way. Since coaching with Natalie I’ve been able to identify some core lies I was believing about myself and dig into those…into why I was believing them and look at the truth instead.

For me, I finally reached a point where I was willing to take an honest look at myself and realize that maybe I do need some help. The investment of the program did make me hesitate and it was a big factor for my husband as well. It was interesting because for so long he had asked me to do something and to get help and then I found Natalie’s program and was excited (and nervous) about trying it, but he become the hesitant one because of the investment. After completing the program, my husband and I see the benefits from the coaching I received from Natalie and how helpful it’s been. We both feel it was worth the investment.“

“Before I found Natalie, I would explode at my husband with little to no warning or provocation. I’d call him names, push him, and just bully him regularly.

I would feel terrible. I’d feel like the worst wife and like I was setting a terrible example for our daughter. I was worried about what she’d grow up like and how our fights and my exploding would impact her.

I’ve fostered a lot more patience with my husband and with myself when I do mess up. I’ve learned how to communicate my frustrations before it gets to the point where i feel like yelling is my only option. My husband and I more regularly talk about triggers and feelings.

I learned that I was holding onto a lot of resentment toward my husband for things that were out of his control (his family of origin) and that was fueling a lot of my rage and anger. I also dealt with a lot of damage from my own toxic parents and how that set me up for my own struggles with emotional regulation.

Do it. Literally unless you absolutely do not put anything into the program, there is no way you cannot benefit from it. Yes, it will be challenging at times and you will feel like you have nothing else to give. Yes, it will be a time commitment, but it is worth it. You cannot experience the freedom and peace that is on the other side unless you are willing to walk through the valley and what it will dredge up – and at least this way, you have someone slogging through it with you.”