Encouragement for when you are feeling lost during the messy moments of motherhood.

It’s normal to feel hopeless and lost in the thick, messy moments of motherhood.

Sometimes it can feel as if the Lord just can’t restore, redeem or fix our motherhood journey.

Full transparency, I’ve had quite a few moments of feeling “hopeless” over the last few months.

It’s okay, Mama. There is nothing wrong with you or your kids when you are feeling hopeless in the messy moments of motherhood. 

It’s important that you acknowledge those feelings. 

Feeling hopeless doesn’t mean you are bad or not good enough. It means you are caught up in a difficult moment with your kids and feeling emotional about it.

The slippery slope of hopelessness is when you believe the lies the enemy will taunt you with like, “you’ll never be good enough and you are a terrible mother.”

But we have a savior who takes those lies and makes them nothing! Thank you, Jesus!

The Lord says you are His and you get to feel JOY by trusting in Him. 

No matter how “big” you blow it or how badly you feel.

This week, the mamas in my spring coaching session, are reading Psalm 34 – it’s about finding joy through trusting in the Lord.

Often our hopelessness in motherhood steals our joy. 

I pray YOU, and my clients, will rediscover joy because with joy we have more strength to defeat the negative emotional arrow from the enemy. 

Motherhood is full of “troubles” but it doesn’t have to be full of hopelessness. 

“This poor man cried out, and the Lord heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles.” Psalm 34:6

Just this last weekend I was on my closet floor crying out to the Lord to save me from the challenges that come with raising kids and teens.

Did he take the troubles away? No, my kids are still here. 

Haha! I am JUST kidding, my kids are not the trouble!! 😉

No, He did not magically stop all challenges but he absolutely comforted my heart and helped me find joy in the healing.

He helped one of my daughters and I recover after a pretty dramatic fight… She yelled in my face and in response I went to slap her face and missed – thank you, Jesus. 

The Lord doesn’t swoop in and save the day like a hero in a cartoon or movie does. He works much deeper than surface-level heroism.

He doesn’t like to see us struggle but he also knows what we need to walk through our challenges so we can grow to be stronger in Him, it’s part of how he changes our hearts. 

“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit.” Psalm 34:18

He allows us to actively take part in our spiritual, emotional, and physical growth.

“Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit. Depart from evil and do good. Seek peace and pursue it.” Psalm 34:13

The Lord will show us which path to take but we have to actually walk, he’s not going to move our feet for us. 

By growing through our challenges we get to teach our children that we have consequences for our reactions – but we have also get to show them how to recover and grow from them.

Last weekend, after some SIT & Pray time, I went back to my daughter and took responsibility for my actions. We forgave each other and the Lord blessed us with joy by restoring our relationship and making it stronger.

The Lord takes our troubles and uses them to grow our spiritual fruits.

When we take our troubles to Him we free ourselves from the burdens and lies from the enemy so we can go back and fight FOR our children, not with our children.

Take your helpless thoughts and feelings to the cross.

Leave the burdens there, repent if you need to, praise Jesus for what He has done, and walk away KNOWING that without a doubt you are redeemed!

“The Lord redeems the soul of his servants, and none of those who trust in Him shall be condemned.” Psalm 34:22





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This blog post was inspired by the writings and podcasts of Kari Kampakis. I highly encourage you to go check her out! The Lord has been using her as a tool to minister to my heart and I think you will love her too! www.karikampakis.com

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